New Years Eve 2018

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Hello all!

It's the morning of New Years Eve. I'm sitting in my new place in my new city. I have a couple guests visiting me from my old city, but we all got a little drunk last night, so I'm the only one up (no hang-over for me, a little 2018 miracle I guess).

Eds, Ramona (Baby Cat), Tina left to right in the room I'm currently chillin' in

It's been a year, people. I mean, every year has its ups and downs, but this one for me held maybe some of the crappiest feelings of my life. I'm luckily pretty naturally steady and calm with my feelings. I'm not an up and down kinda gal, so some of the feelings I encountered were things I wasn't too familiar with. I guess there is something lovely in the mere act of experiencing new things and new feelings, and I do have some appreciation for that...but I also have an appreciation for feeling my normal.

I think in this post, I'd like to just write a little about the past and future and see what happens.

1 I don't know how many people read my posts. I never have, and I don't understand the site visitor diagnostics nearly as well as I should. I know there are some. One or two of you will reveal yourselves every so often. I love hearing from you - like, I REALLY LOVE hearing from you. It makes my week, but I'll write it even if no one reads it. I kind of think of this blog more as a weird resource that can just exist here in case someone needs to read about every lady-gasm scene in all of the The Americans or something like that. Anyway, to those that read my blog, Hello! I'm very interested in you.

2 I have been way off my SSL blogging game this year. Honestly, the last couple years have been a struggle. There's been a lot going on. This year though, my new job has turned out to be not nearly as conducive to writing these as my old job. In fact, if I'm on the company internet - even if I'm VPN-ing in from my home, ScienceSexAndTheLadies.blogspot.com is straight up blocked, so I can't even check on it from there. Slightly annoying, but I'm actually getting to a place in my job after about 6 months where I'm starting to feel comfortable in general - like I'm still learning of course, but I feel pretty good about it. So, that in itself will free up some time for me over 2019. I mean, it's one thing to do a job and it's another to do a job and learn it at the same time...one is much less efficient.

3 I say it often, but I want to do more Journal Article Summaries in 2019. They are my favorite part of this blog, but these mother fuckers take so damn long, though.

4 I like doing the SSL Reviews too. They can go either way in terms of time and effort, sometimes I just have to describe something and say some obvious shit about it. Sometimes I have to explain a bunch of complicated thoughts and feelings and histories related to a depiction/discussion, and I go down an 8 page rabbit hole that you may or may not have time/energy/interest to read. These will never go away, though. I watch a lot of shit, and I have a never ending list of lady-gasm, lady-bation, and clit depictions/discussions in movies and TV that I have yet to SSL Review. I got hella notes though, and I will get to them one at a time. Also, sometimes I avoid watching something that I know will have tons of SSL Reviewable moments because I don't want to take notes. Also, I have had notes on The To-Do List for going on 6 years now, but I avoid it because there is so damn much to unpack in it. 2019 might be its year.

5 I've got more Orgasm Interviews coming (pun intended). I'm excited about these, and thank you Anna for being the first. :)

6 It's been over 15 years since I started researching for my movie. It's been 10 years since I started writing this blog (dude - March 11, 2019 will be the 10 year anniversary. I'll have to do something cool for it). It's been almost 5 years since we finished the movie Science, Sex and the Ladies  (Amazon and Vimeo). I've been covering how people talk about, research, depict, and teach lady-gasms for a good while now, and I have to say, our cultural understanding of it has not budged much over the past decade. There is much work still to be done.

7 Happy New Year to you all wherever you are and whatever you are doing. I know some of you are kick-ass Orgasm Equality Allies out there spreading the good word and making the world a better place for the next generation. Keep that shit up in 2019! The rest of you are either future bad-ass Orgasm Equality Allies, skeptics here to see how wrong as fuck I am for proposing there is no such thing as an orgasm caused by stimulation inside the vagina (I got pretty goddamn solid reasons for saying, it ya'll. I wouldn't be so quick to hate.), random people looking for porn/erotica but ended up at one of my posts (Hello!), or my newish employees googling my name and finding out what their boss writes about on her free time (Hi! We will never speak of this again!). I wish all of you the best in 2019!

Until next year...