tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2427849323464039196.post9210202783990930157..comments2024-02-27T03:06:57.992-05:00Comments on *This Blog has moved to www.ScienceSexAndTheLadies.com: How Our F'd Up Sexual Culture Slowly Breaks Us Ladies And Our 'GasmsCharleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02337249592179616090noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2427849323464039196.post-8703310813648261672015-08-07T17:20:24.487-04:002015-08-07T17:20:24.487-04:00Jennie - Thank you, thank you for commenting. I re...Jennie - Thank you, thank you for commenting. I really appreciate it. It means a lot hearing from other people who can relate to the things I'm writing about. <br />As for your question. It is absolutely true for men and women that any kind of stress (such as money and work issues, lack of sleep, etc.) can inhibit arousal and thus orgasm. Masters and Johnson's book Human Sexual Inadequacy about their therapy for sexual problems is very clear about that. As far as it affecting you more than your husband...that's tough to say. There may just be individual differences between you two with how you deal with stress and anxiety. However, I tend to think that at least part of that has to do with you already being just a little bit less easily aroused (due to all the things described above) and so anything extra that's piled on is just that much more harmful to your arousal...like your bucket is already half full with inhibitors and so it takes less to fill it up than his does. <br /><br />I don't think there are any easy answers here. Realizing that your sexual desire has slowly waned over the years and your partner's hasn't quite as much, feels sad, sadder than people often let on, I think. It is something I think a whole lot of us women struggle with. <br /><br />No need to answer if you don't feel like it, but it sounds like your husband is a caring partner. How much do you two talk about this, and how much do you think it helps? And, I ask because I think there is a lot of advice out there that just says, talk about it! You'll figure it out! But, I don't think there are a lot of examples out there in the world that help otherwise healthy couples understand how to talk about this particular problem in a realistic way. It's hard to even know how to do it, and I think maybe there isn't really even much of a vocabulary to describe what is actually happening correctly. Anyway, I just thought I'd ask. I think women need to talk more about this kind of thing.<br />Thanks again, and I hope you like the rest of the blog!Trishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08846980215552421591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2427849323464039196.post-19938291827885364362015-08-07T16:27:54.786-04:002015-08-07T16:27:54.786-04:00I keep telling myself I'm not alone in some of...I keep telling myself I'm not alone in some of this. Thanks for the validation. <br />Yes to several points on your bullet list. Yes to the internal monologue at the start of every sexual encounter with my husband, whom I love dearly, and who treats me with a lot of respect, in and out of bed. <br />This is the first post I've read here, and I'll probably browse around a bit more. <br />I'll pose this question first though.<br />In addition to your list of past experiences, I feel like current situations can make it hard for me to become aroused. Bank account at zero, stress at work, failure to hit a goal. My husband shares many of those, but they seem to effect his arousal less. Is there any science backing up my feelings about this?Jenniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03994844081172979101noreply@blogger.com