Glamour Joins the Orgasm Equality Fight

So, yo, yo, yo. There's an article that actually came out last year, but it slipped through the cracks, and I am just now posting about it. That means nothing about how much I love it though.

It's an article in Glamour called, "Are you ready for the war on bad sex?" and it's about the bullshit that is our sexual culture when it comes (or more likely doesn't come, if you get me drift) to lady-gams. The ever awesome Gemma Askham, who has already made my list of Orgasm Equality Heroes, and who I write about HERE, wrote it and in it talks with a variety of women out there activating on the subject. I am proud to be one of those ladies she speaks with in the article, and I feel absolutely elated to be among those other women calling BS on our culture's ignorance and ambivalence towards female orgasm.

Honestly, it really is exciting to see some boldness on this topic. I love seeing people speak more directly to the idea that vaginas don't make orgasms and that clits are the organ of female sexual pleasure. I love seeing it clearly put out there that women are able to orgasm as quickly, easily and reliably as men do...and then seriously question why the hell we don't much of the time. I love that there seems to be some real movement on this topic i like to call orgasm equality.

Some of the other women Gemma talks with in here have already made my Orgasm Equality Heroes list (Jenny Block, who I wrote about HERE ) and some women I am for sure interested in writing about in the future (Breanne Fahs, Lydia Daniller who co-founded OMGYes that has been on my list to write about for quite a while actually, and Naomi Hutchings)

Anyway, I LOVE women speaking out and I LOVE women highlighting the women who are speaking out. This is how revolutions - orgasm equality revolutions - begin, my friends.

Go check out the Article.


  1. Hi Trisha, just wanted to say I appreciate your blog. For the record, I'm actually conservative politically/socially, and I don't really go for the orgasm equality cause, though I do think any guy worth his salt who loves his lady ought to learn how orgasm works and make sure she has them as often as he does, and I think that it's important to have accurate information out there about it to serve women (and men).

    So you wouldn't think I'd find much to relate to here, but what I really like about your site is the commitment to scientific rigor when it comes to female orgasm. As I've researched the topic myself for application in my own marriage, I've become increasingly aware of just how much nonsense and garbage advice is out there, and how much it all stems from the rampant self-promotion and abysmal standards of evidence rife throughout the whole field of sexology.

    For instance, I've seen dozens of articles about the alleged "cervix orgasm" and how to have them. I see it taken for granted in scholarly papers and books by well-known evo-psych guys like David Buss. I see it casually asserted that this is the basis for many women's sexual satisfaction in various literature (it's certainly the foundation for Stuart Brody's entire awful body of neo-Freudian work).

    And yet, this whole edifice of ink rests on a single study from 2004 using a mere five women with spinal cord injuries that (as I know thanks to this blog) relied on (known to be notoriously inaccurate) self-reports of orgasm and which nobody has bothered to verify or replicate in the over a decade since. It's just incredible to me that so much has been hung on so little.

    And then there are the even more poorly-supported "A-spot" and "P-spot" and "U-spot" and so on, based on even flimsier evidence, which nevertheless have become staples of received wisdom across the Internet. Even the "G-spot" is the sort of unfalsifiable contrivance that wouldn't fly in any mainstream field of anatomy. Since these things can't be diagrammed or even seen, as long as even one woman claims to orgasm or even feel good from the general areas where they supposedly exist (and you will find at least some people claiming to feel good from stimulation to *anywhere on the human body*), they can't be falsified.

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    And of course the researchers behind each of these sensational "discoveries" get lots of media exposure and recognition and move lots of books and so on as a result.

    It's bad enough just from a scientific perspective that so much poorly-sourced information is being widely promulgated as fact, but worse is that I think it actively poisons a lot of people's perceptions of sex and of themselves. In a way, I think that's partly deliberate on the part of both journalists and researchers. Articles with sensationalist titles like "12 Types Of Earth-Shattering Orgasms You're Missing Out On" or "Sorry Boys, Bigger IS Better In Bed" get lots of views by picking at the insecurities of both sexes, and I think they do real harm to individuals and their relationships in the process, and needlessly make them feel like there's something wrong with them, much like Freud himself did to women for the better part of a century.

    (As an aside, I think it's pretty ironic that researchers like Whipple and Komisaruk, in deciding that anything a woman calls an "orgasm" must be an orgasm because it would be un-feminist to deny her lived experience or whatever, have ended up allying with Freudian kooks like Brody).

    Anyhow, it's refreshing to see you taking a skeptical eye to all this stuff, and pointing out what actually has been experimentally verified and what is mostly just speculation and assumption being presented as science. I've seen a few researchers (such as Nicole Prause) seeming to go more this route too recently, so hopefully there will be some commitment to actually testing these claims rigorously in the near future and filtering out all the smoke.


    1. Pete! Thank you so much for this note. As you know, I couldn't agree more with what you've said about the state of scientific inquiry into female orgasm. I love that you take the time to think and research on orgasm for your partner. Like you said - that is something a partner should absolutely be willing to do...wish it wasn't such a confusing thing to research though, amiright?

      Love too that you're really getting into the literature and getting to know the 'big' researchers. You definitely seem to have a handle on the state of it all. Please do give me a heads up if you see any new research that has some real new insight into the topic. There's a lot out there and it gets hard to keep up with.

      I also love that you have a bit of a different political/social leaning than I do, and that we can still agree on the problematic aspects of lady-gasm research and lady-gasm reporting/advising...because reality is reality I guess - no matter your leanings.

      Anyway, thank you again, and I so, so, so agree that 'hopefully there will be some commitment to actually testing these claims rigorously in the near future and filtering out all the smoke.'

      Rock on with your bad self Pete. You might just be an orgasm equality hero...even though you don't really go for the whole orgasm equality thing ;)