8.25.2016

A Cunnilingus Art Show and Some Swingin' Orgasm Equality Lips



Ladies and Gentlemen, there was a curated art show in Hollywood, CA this weekend about one of my most favorite things - getting ate the hell out. It was called EAT ME: A Cunnilingus Themed Art Show. You can't go now because it's over, and you probably don't live in Hollywood anyway, but you wish you could have gone. We all do.

From 'EAT ME: A Cunnilingus Themed Art Show' at Junior High in Hollywood, CA August 2016 

Anything that normalizes, praises, delights in, or depicts mouth areas pleasuring clit areas is top notch in my book. I respect the hell out of everyone involved with this show.

It was curated by Elizabeth Vazquez and Alison Stevenson. They are obviously fabulous Orgasm Equality Heroes.  In fact, Alison was just recently awarded a spot on the official Orgasm Equality Allies list due to her absolutely bad ass articles about her decision to stop giving BJs to dudes due in part to the sadly low amount of reciprocation.

But, Ms. Stevenson deserves higher ranking on the Orgasm Equality Allies List. She didn't just stumble upon saying one or two revolutionary things on the subject during some truth-telling moments of an otherwise non-orgasm equality related writing/artisting/talking life. In my view she seems to be making a pointed, thoughtful and brave attack on this PinV=Orgasm obsession we have. So I have moved her entry to under the heading "Artists, writers, and activists devoting much of their lives or a large portion of their work to the cause." That's important to me. She's up there with Sophia Wallace and Shere Hite ya'll. I don't use that subheading lightly.  You see, after reading about this show, it solidified her place as one of the few women out there saying the thing I think many secretly know/believe but few have the swingin' lower lady lips to say...That women need clitoral glans stimulation in order to orgasm.

I sooooo often read sexperts and scientists and the like who say things like 'most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm' or 'don't forget the clit! It's a super important part of female pleasure!' and ya, know, I like that the clit is being mentioned because it too rarely is. However, we don't hear sexperts telling people 'most men need penile stimulation in order to orgasm' or 'don't forget the penis! It's a super important part of male pleasure!' We don't hear that because we have a collective clue about what part men need you to touch to help them orgasm. Saying those things about men seem ridiculous and misleading in a way it doesn't when we say it about women - even though it is absolutely as ridiculous and misleading. Seriously, no scientific paper out there has physical evidence that vaginal stimulation causes orgasm. Which means, from what we know through over 1/2 a century of scientific research is that clit stimulation causes orgasm and vaginal stimulation does not seem to. Thems just the facts, but it is few and far between to find a person who will so out-rightedly tell the world the clit is where it's at and vaginal stimulation can to go suck an asshole when it comes to lady-gasms.

Alison Stevenson will say it, though. In her interview at Huffington post about the cunnilingus show she says:
“A lot of straight men are under the impression that penetrative sex is a way for us to orgasm when it’s not. We need clitoral stimulation.”
That's what I'm talking about. She made no bones about it, and although you may think that's something people do, it's really not. I have spent the better part of 14 years reading about female orgasm in books and on the internet and hearing about it on podcasts and TV, and I can assure you that simply saying women need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm - without hemming and hawing and walking back the statement so no one thinks anyone is invalidating women who say they experience vaginal orgasm - is rare indeed. It takes some heavy, swingin' lips to tell the goddamn truth, and Alison Stevenson's clearly got 'em.


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