Hello, friends. It's time for more Random Hite Report! In 1976, Shere Hite dropped The Hite Report where she compiled detailed survey answers from over 3,000 women about sex, masturbation, orgasms, and relationships. It's insane to me how revolutionary this book still is. Read it, seriously. We really haven't changed that much in 40 years, and it's an incredibly insightful read.
Then in 1981, she dropped The Hite Report on Male Sexuality where over 7,000 men give detailed answers about sex, relationships, and women. It too is revolutionary, and the honesty, vulnerability, and detail in this book is so important and moving. I think everyone should read this too. So, I give you a taste every now and then to entice you to get these books. Seriously, they are both like 1 cent online.
Anyway, what I do is flip to one random page and copy the contents of that page, no more-no less, directly onto this blog. Enjoy.
The Hite Report on Male Sexuality
Knopf, 1981 pg 760
The following page is in the chapter Paying Women for Sex. The page is filled with men's answers to the question,"Have you ever had sex with with a prostitute?" It's preceded by the following section header:
This question brought about a surprising assumption about the relationship between men and women; the most common reaction was "You always pay anyway."page 760
... "I have had sex with a prostitute. I have no feeling about paying for sex. After all, marriage is paying for sex by contract."
"The fact that I paid for sex, of itself, never bothered me. To me it was really not much different from dating a woman and spending perhaps twice as much money on her, ending up in the same way."
"A prostitute is a hell of a lot more honest than the domestic prostitutes that go under the label of wives, at least you get what you pay for."
"I feel a man is always paying for it one way or the other,"
"I have had sex with a number of prostitutes over the years. I have felt many times that there is little difference in paying a lady fifty dollars on meals, etc., and then receiving sexual entertainment. One does it for fun and one for a living."
"I am a firm believer that all women, once they pass eighteen (some even before), are prostitutes at one time or another. All wives are prostitutes, that's for sure. Just let them want something that a man doesn't provide and see how soon the sex is cut off until they get their way."
"You pay for it one way or another - actually it's cheaper with a whore! Also, she's a pro, doesn't play coy games, and no pretenses."
"I don't like paying for sex, but really what's the difference if a guy pays twenty-five or thirty dollars on a date, then 'maybe' has intercourse, or just picks up a prostitute off the street and pays her the same? Actually a person is money ahead with a whore."
"Paying for sex never made any difference to me. You pay for all of it."
Many men gave similar answers to the question "Did you ever feel a woman was having sex with you because of something you could give her - your prestige, position, or economic advantage?":"I sure do, in fact in just about every relationship I try to fathom what the woman thinks I am going to do for her. At this point in my life I am well used to being used."
"After about two years of marriage, I came to realize that my wife had used sex for a home and security. We separated and I made up my mind it would never happen again."
"In my opinion a wife makes a so-called professional prostitute look like an amateur!"
"My first wife would say, 'if you do this or that (housework, or take her somewhere), I'll let you love me.' If I didn't, I just got horny. She used sex to get what she wanted. If we argued I was cut off for a week or so. She is no longer my wife."
"With my wife, I felt she only did it as a payment for the security I supplied. It took a lot away from our relationship."
"Economic advantages are probably all I get laid for. I've never felt that a cunt has wanted just me, because eventually, they've all gotten too demanding. The status is having an old man, a car, a house, nice furnishings; but this is one old man that can't be manipulated into the rut that has destroyed so many."...