1.05.2013

Sexy Orgasm Equality Approved Songs



Well, I've been listening to a lot of specifically dirty, sexy playlists lately on Spotify and 8Tracks. I truly and dearly love some nasty, grindy hip hop - stuff that makes a gal wanna be groovin' all nasty style up in a dance club. I grew up on the stuff - the ol' NWA and Digital Underground tapes stolen from my sisters room. It has a special and important place in my heart, but I cannot ignore that almost all of it is misinformed, badly misinformed, when it comes to female pleasure (and orgasm specifically). It's not really any different than the regular ol' ignorance that saturates our society and all media about female orgasm, but it is usually one of the most explicit mainstream types of outlets for the ignorance - so I feel the raw nature of it makes it more of an impactful (and harmful) type of "education." Penetration is always the key ingredient for ladygasms, and if cunnilingus or manual clitoral stimulation are spoken of, it's almost always as a work up to the "real" orgasm-as-a-result-of-being-boned-hard or as a sort of show or preview to the intercourse stuff. Now, as you know, this is exactly the kind of depictions and discussions of female orgasm that I am heavily working against, but I'm not gonna lie, I still love the stupid ignorant stuff. I listen to it all the same, and I find it quite sexy, but honestly, if I had a real choice...if I actually had that sexy, explicit style, but with less ignorant lyrics, I would love that much more.

So, since my birthday is coming up, I'm going to give you a present. I've been compiling a list of these songs that don't have the dumb. I'm including only songs that depict orgasms had as a result of physical actions that would actually make a woman come, and I don't include them when that realistic depiction gets watered down by additional unrealistic depiction or discussion of female orgasm. You will notice that there's not that many, and although sad, it's warranted. Yes there are certainly more songs like these out there that are by women, and there are many that involve a little cunnilingus action, but listening to the whole song and not just a few lyrics makes most of them ineligible for my esteemed list. Unsurprisingly, a lot of male singers are out, but so are a lot of women. Women too often sing about how good they are at giving pleasure to men and speak of their orgasms as coming from some good ol' hard penis in vagina thrusting (even if being eaten out, which is legit, is somewhere in the song too.) I mean, there are a lot that are saying the same things men say, but just from the female side - like if a man sang it, it'd be like, "I want you to service me," and the female version is "I want to service you!" There are more songs out now about men talking about how much they are into pleasing their lady out their too, and they do often speak of eating her out or touching her clit, and she does often orgasm from that, but as always, they also include her coming and coming from the singer's magic penis jamming into her. That's about as status quo as it gets, and not so realistic - at least not the last part.

So, as of yet, there sadly, are only 6 (5 in the "SSL Dirty Song Champs!" Spotify playlist because Wait (Whisper Song Girl Version) isn't on Spotify yet.)

 YouTube videos are below. They are all the explicit versions since they need to be to really get the point, but beware, YouTube videos of songs have a bad habit of being pulled as time goes by. So, there is also the "SSL Dirty Song Champs!" Spotify playlist I am sharing. I hope to continue adding more...

How Many Licks - Lil' Kim (Featuring Sisqo)


 

My Neck, My Back - (Lick It) Khia
 

Play - David Banner
 

My Bubble Gum - Raheeda
 

Wait (The Whisper Song Girl Version) - Kelis
 

WooHoo - Christina Aguilera (Featuring Nicki Minaj)
 

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